Normally I would START OFF right on the TOPIC, but of course this is to SIMPLE to BELIEVE. What do we usually do when we want something we tell the person(s), WHAT WE WANT (for instance our children we sometimes tell them in a angry way WHAT WE WANT THEM TO DO, or we might even threaten them with a spanking, and yet WE never ask ourselves, what do they REALLY want??)
See most people don't give a DARN about WHAT WE WANT!! And I guess this also applies to children as well as ADULTS.(Hint, Hint It maybe the a Secret in getting along, Selling or whenever we might just want something. To LOOK FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE, WHAT WHAT DO THEY WANT, TO TALK ABOUT?)
When Great Britain's Prime Minister Lloyd George,( during world war 1 era) was asked HOW HE MANAGED TO STAY IN POWER SO LONG? His Reply was You Have to Bait the Hook to suit the fish.
He said, Why talk about what we want? That is childish. Absurd. Of course, you are interested in what you want. You are eternally interested in it. But No One Else Is. The rest of us are just like you, we are interested in what we want. So the Only Way on Earth to Influence Other People is to talk About What THEY WANT and show them How To Get It.
Do we Listen to the Andrew Carnegie's (No relation to Dale Carnegie) the Emerson's of the past or do we keep doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result?
San Diego Plumber Quotes Andrew Carnegie
Andrew Carnegie (The Shrewd Steel Magnate) Once wagered a $100 dollar bet, that his nephews would write back. Without asking them to write back. See one time he had two nephews who were attending Yale. And their mother(Andrew Carnegie's sister-law) was grief striken with fear since she had tried to write them several times but they would not respond?
Well Andrew Carnegie sent them a chatty letter, and then said he was sending them each five dollars. Although he never included the five dollars, so you can imagine how fast they wrote back. (Five dollars at the turn of the century, was probably like 100 dollars today, and he never even asked them TO WRITE BACK!)
San Diego Plumber Quotes Henry Ford.
Henry Ford once said "If There Is Any one Secret of Success, It Lies in the ability to get the Other Person's Point of View and See Thing's from That Person's Angle as well as your Own."
Dale Carnegie also Illustrated how some business men who called them selves advertisers, lacked skill in sales. For instance he talked about what they wanted or how salesmen always pushed WHAT THEY WANTED Instead of seeing it from the customer's angle or saying or thinking WHAT DOES the customer want? (In other words if advertisers or sales people could show us HOW WE AS CUSTOMERS WOULD BENEFIT from their products, or help us solve our problems they won't need to sale us. We'll buy . And customers like to feel there buying ___ not being sold.)
There was a woman who was going to move across country so she wrote 13 banks for an interview and 11 responded. How did she do this? Well in her letters she first wrote to them HOW SHE COULD HELP THE BANKS, that she had acquired various Skills in all phases of banking,including...with her ten years experience .
In the future if you want to persuade someone. Before you say anything THINK How Can I make THIS Person(S) want to do it!
San Diego Plumber Says to think THINK How Can I make THIS Person(S) want to do it!
And last but not least he mentioned how if we want our children to not smoke show them the consequences. For instance they might not make the basketball team, or the consequences to their health!
He also mentioned how a child who was going to enter into kindergarten didn't want to go and since he did't want to traumatize Him, HE THOUGHT HOW to convince him? Then he made a list of all the things he would do in kindergarten finger painting, singing songs, makeing new friends. Then they started finger painting but told the child that he couldn't do any finger painting because he had to go to kindergarten to learn. The next morning who do you think was up early in the morning for kindergarten, yes the child.
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