I dare to say it could be called more of a selfless act when we are not just thinking of the benefits to oneself, or in which way we are to gain from him or her.
If we actually place our selves in the other Person's shoes, (albeit if even for a few moments) for it is said until you have walked in a an other's shoes for a mile you do not know what that person is really going through. (through sacrifice is sometimes when we gain the most)
But abstaining from the obvious imprudence of walking in an other's shoes, truly what does it take or rather the sacrifice(s)? The endurance of that person, is not really known till we become aware of the failures, and or of their triumphs and yes sufferings of ANOTHER TILL WE DARE WALK IN AN OTHER'S SHOES FOR A MILE. (easier said than done)
In this story of a man who worked in a office calling people about their debts, (collections). This woman had been called by this collection agency for failure to pay on time, (she was six weeks late). While she had been left, a rather tough message more like a threat that if she didn't make her car payment on Monday they were going to go pick it up.
Well so when Monday arrived and she was called about the payment, she decided to place herself in the other's shoes , and she realized that he was just doing his job.
So anyways on this call she apologized for not making the payment, and said to the collections agent that she must be the most difficult person, AND THAN THE COLLECTIONS AGENT BASICALLY STARTED TALKING ABOUT HOW SOME PEOPLE WERE ACTUALLY VERY RUDE WITH HIM. AND HE THAN SAID if SHE PAID $20 BY THE END OF THE MONTH AND PAID THE REST WHENEVER SHE COULD WOULD BE FINE.
In his book Getting through to people, Dr. Gerald S. Nirenberg commented: "Cooperativeness in Conversation is achieved when you show that you consider the other Person's Ideas and Feelings as Important as Your Own. STARTING Your Conversation BY GIVING the OTHER PERSON the PURPOSE or DIRECTION of YOUR CONVERSATION, governing what you say by what YOU WOULD WANT to Hear IF YOU WERE the LISTENER, and accepting his or her view point will encourage the listener to have an OPEN MIND to YOUR IDEAS."
San Diego Plumber Mentions a Husband Wife Relationship.
In a incident with a man and his wife the man (Mr. Douglas) realized how foolish he had been when he would tell his wife about spending so much time on the lawn, because unfortunately every time he would tell her about this he didn't realize how much joy it would bring her.
But then one day after dinner she invited him to join her and he started helping her with the gardening and they spent and hour in pleasant conversation. After that he would always compliment her on doing such a fantastic job on the gardening; the result a happier relationship.
San Diego Plumber Quotes Kenneth M. Goode "How to Turn People Into Gold"
In Kenneth M. Goode's book titled "How to Turn People Into Gold". "Stop a minute to contrast your keen Interest in Your Own Affairs with your mild concern about anything else. Realize then, that everybody else in the world feels exactly the Same Way! Then, along with Lincoln and Roosevelt, You Will Have Grasped the solid Foundation for Interpersonal Relationships; Namely, that a Success in Dealing With People Depends on a Sympathetic grasp of the other person's viewpoint"
In conclusion For real wisdom and Insight is gained through Placing One self in Their Shoes, In order to See from Their Point of View or Perspective.
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