Dr. Arthur I. Gates wrote in his book Titled Educational Psychology. "Sympathy the Human Species Universally Craves. The child eagerly displays His Injury; or even inflicts a cut or bruise in order to reap abundant sympathy.
For the same purpose adults.... show their bruises, relate their accidents, illness, especially details of surgical operations. 'Self-Pity' for misfortunes real or imaginary is some measure, practically a universal practice."
So If You Want to Win People to Your Way of Thinking remember to practice, Be Sympathetic With Other's Person's Ideas and desires.
How Would You Like to Have A Magic Phrase that Would Stop Arguments, Eliminate ill Feeling, create Good Will and Make the Other Person listen Attentively? OK HERE IT IS.
" I Don't Blame you one Iota for Feeling as You Do. If I were You I Would Undoubtedly Feel just as You Do."
See if your the other person you would feel just as he/she does. Of course if given certain facts, one being if you had inherited the same body and temperament, and mind that John Doe had and you had been raised in the same environment and experiences.
You would be pretty close to that persons reactions and or feelings, given that all these other factors were present and similar then you too would be similar if not the same.
"For there for the Grace of God go I" Yes when you go walking, driving along the street and you see a street person, Remember,
"For there for the Grace of God go I". Yes society is always thirsty for sympathy, GIVE IT TO THEM, and they will LOVE YOU.
There was once this elevator repair man (Jay Magnum) who was going to take 8 hours, to do maintenance on a hotel elevator and basically the elevator would be inoperable.
Although the Manager (Rick) wanted the repair man to take only 2 hours. So as not to inconvenience his patrons.
So the elevator man thought what he could say so he sympathized with the Manager and put himself in the position of the manager, and said "Rick I know your hotel is quite busy and you would like to keep the escalator shutdown time to a minimum.
I Understand Your Concern about this, and we want to do everything possible to accommodate you.
However, Our Diagnosis of the situation shows that if we do not do a complete job now, your escalator may suffer more serious damage and that would cause a longer shutdown.
I know You do Not Want to Inconvenience Your Guests for Several Days."
And then there is a story about a Piano Instructor who was going to teach a young girl but unfortunately she had long beautiful fingernails.
Which made her piano learning much more difficult so the Piano Teacher waited for the right time after her first lesson he mentioned to her that if she wanted to do her best in learning to play the piano, long fingernails would be difficult to learn with.
The following week she had trimmed her fingernails. The Piano teacher put himself in her place and sympathized with the young girl and realized although she had beautiful nails and she really liked them, she would never be able to learn very well how to play the piano with long fingernails.
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